More Preparations and CAKE!

After the hectic nature of Ritha's wedding we returned back to our own wedding

planning. Sunday morning was spent stuffing, stamping and sealing our wedding invitations. We've already started to get RSVPs, which is so exciting! We also completed possibly the most important part of planning, CAKE TASTING! A friend of mine from Kaplan's girlfriend is a baker and she not only makes beautiful cakes, but as we found out on Sunday, very tasty ones as well! We decided to go with a traditional wedding cake that Landry was far more into designing than I expected him to, but I always welcome his wedding planning enthusiasm. We're also doing two specialty cakes, but those will be a secret until the big day. I can tell you that they're super awesome! We decided on pound cake with fudge frosting for the cake that will feed most of our guests since this seemed to be a real crowd pleaser at the tasting (and by crowd pleaser I mean Landry and I both agreed on it!) One of our specialty cakes will be Landry's favorite flavor, which was

pound cake with caramel frosting and the other will be my favorite, fudge cake with peanut butter frosting. Yum, I can almost taste it!

Last night we spent two hours hanging out in the basement studio of our DJs going over music selections and the schedule for our reception. I was psyched about their work before this meeting, but now that we've had it I'm officially giddy. They're so all about personal service I just can't get over it. They're going to incorporate our French music, African music, my Motown and oldies background, and our current love of hip-hop into a personal library of music basically hand picked by us! There won't be one song played at our wedding that we don't absolutely love! How many brides and grooms get to say that??

Wedding Weekend! (Not Mine of Course!)

This weekend was a whirlwind of wedding activity, but most of it had nothing to do with my wedding. This weekend was Ritha's wedding. I met Ritha this past year and got to know her very well when she lived with Landry and I for about six months. Ritha is from the Congo and so her wedding had a lot of very traditional components. Despite having lived in Africa for a period of time, I've never really seen the cultural side of an African wedding play out and it was definitely a unique experience. I think what was so breathtaking about the cultural ceremony on Friday night was the incredible diversity and the feeling of family despite very few of the participants actually being related at all. This was a traditional Congolese wedding ceremony being held in a North Philadelphia home where an Irish immigrant and an African American woman gave away their Congolese daughter for marriage. They stood united as a family and the Irishman was as protective of his African daughter as any father would be on the day of his daughter's marriage. It just really solidified the idea that family is exactly what you make of it.

Saturday was a whirlwind of hair, make-up, dresses, pictures, eating, drinking and laughing. The wedding started about 45 minutes late....not totally unexpected. And the reception didn't get underway until well after 10pm. Surrounded by African music, French speaking people, and traditional, colorful wedding garments I felt for part of the night as though I was actually in the Congo. It was a welcomed escape from the craziness of my life right now. Ritha and Freddy looked very happy together and I was really honored that they asked me to be a part of their special day.

Fittings, Hair and Make-Up and Relaxation

Well, before I go into any of the details of this week, I must say that I had the BEST massage I've ever had in my whole life this evening at The Massage Arts Center in Philadelphia. If you've never been, I highly recommend it. I had a 60 minute full body and facial massage for just $40 and it truly was the best massage ever! I have this heinous sunburn on my shoulder and neck from my maid of honor's graduation on Tuesday and this girl was able to massage right over it without so much as a tinge of pain. I know where I'm going for my two-days-before-my-wedding-and-I'm-going-crazy-massage! Check out their website http://www.massagearts.com/

Okay, enough about my fab massage and onto the wedding details of this week. FINALLY! After much searching I have located and booked a hair and make-up artist for my bridesmaids and my mom. I swear this has been the most stressful part of wedding planning thus far. I found someone very early on that quoted us great prices and I thought we were all set to go, but when I sent her the details on who was getting what services, she had booked another bride for my date. Boo! So then I set out to find another on-site artist with comparable prices and that's where the trouble began. It's INSANE how much people want to charge for on-site hair and make-up services. But, with some help from my bridesmaid Melissa, I was able to locate Just Teasing in Easton, PA. The reviews look good online and her prices can't be beat. I'm waiting to receive the contract in the mail and it will be one more thing to check off the list! And, for those of you who have or are using theknot.com, that checklist is crazy long, isn't it??

In addition to booking hair and make-up, I'm also finalizing the plans for the flowers. I'm lucky enough to have a cousin that does beautiful floral arrangements and she's going to help us put together the bouquets, boutonnieres, and centerpieces for the wedding. We're going with orange calla lilies and asiatic lilies and picasso calla lilies. I can't wait to get everything put together with the fabric Landry's mom bought for us. It's going to be great!

Finally, saving the best for last, I had my first dress fitting this week! It was the most surreal experience ever. I felt like I was trying on this pretty white dress that belonged to someone else. The whole time I was in the dress shop it never dawned on me that I was wearing MY wedding dress. I feel a little guilty because I wasn't acting super crazy and excited like you see those girls on "Say Yes to the Dress." My mom asked me if I loved it and I gave this dazed, half sincere yes. So weird! It's not that I don't love my dress, because I absolutely do, but it didn't hit me until I was walking home from work last night that I have a wedding dress! I'm posting some teaser pics here, blurred and super close up for a reason, but obviously I can't post the whole dress! Oh, and the best part, I don't even need alterations right now! The dress fits me to a T, just as it is. Once I get my shoes from my super fabulous friend Anisa in India I may not even have to get it hemmed! Wouldn't that be a great save!

More to come soon....meetings coming up with cake bakers and DJs and the invites are going out in just over a week. Oh! And, maybe the best news of all, Landry will be home in less than a week!

So many new things!

Writing today's blog is a little bittersweet for me. I'm SO excited because my wedding shower invitations were delivered this weekend and they're so cute! Exactly what I would have wanted for a Bridal Shower Tea. My custom made orange blossom hair comb also arrived this week and it's just as gorgeous as I had hoped. I must give props to Maria at St. Jude's Creations for making this hair comb. If you're looking for anything involving hand-made flowers, Maria is your girl. You can check her out at http://stjudescreations.blogspot.com/. She also sells her creations on etsy.com.

In the midst of my excitement, I'm feeling a little bummed because Landry isn't here to share all of these little things with me. Not that I really think he'd be jumping for joy over a hair comb or an invitation, but it would be nice to show him these things in person. Instead, I'm sharing them via video chat on Skype while he's in China. He's there playing basketball and it's an amazing opportunity for him, but he was supposed to be home on June 3rd. Then they were playing so well, their Chinese hosts decided to extend the trip until June 15th. Just today I found out that they wanted him to stay until July 20th. He told them it wasn't a possibility, but we talked about it and decided he should take as much of the opportunity as he can, so now he won't be home until the end of June. It's been a rough three weeks without him so far and I'm really not looking forward to another three, but I realize that this is where he needs to be. And there's nothing immediate about our wedding that he needs to be here for. We'll send out the invites the first week in July and reschedule meetings with our cake baker and DJ. I just can't wait to get a confirmation of his travel dates so that we know for sure exactly when he'll be home.

In the meantime I'm looking forward to the next exciting milestone, my first dress fitting! Probably not for another week or two, but we'll see what develops that's exciting to talk about in the meantime.